I find complaints bothersome if there is blame attached to them or if the person making them fails to recognize that they are complaining. When someone includes the tag "rant" on a post, for example, anything goes. Any sentence beginning with "You should" that didn't follow my request for help is a bothersome complaint. It implies that you are dissatisfied with something about me and have an expectation that I will fix it to comply with your view of how life goes. (I don't mean *you* when I say "you," I mean the generic you.)

If you are simply complaining without any expectation that I will do anything but say "hm. Uh huh. I hear ya" then go ahead.

As long as you put up with my complaints, too.